Wednesday, 25 June 2014

Dwell on soultions not problems

Right, so don't dwell on specific physiological problems you might be having, you end up simply perpetuating them. Which always seemed to be counter to the philosophy of admitting you have a problem. It is confusing.







Instead, focus on and dwell on the solutions.

So for me I am missing a lot of life skills, it is embarrassing at 29 but I just believed that I would be taught everything I need to know in my childhood. Not the case, in fact schools should really get kids to practice things like being social and team work and staying organized. I don't think school has taught me anything of use other than reading, writing and basic arithmetic. But that's another conversation.

My solutions are:

social skills
organizational skills
do yoga + a sport. (it's cheaper than the gym)

umm, that might be it really... wow that's a small list. I think that once I put these into practice all the bad stuff will melt away, and when that happens, I will become a positive person and in turn become approachable to others



There might be work classes on meetup.com if not I might try searching for something that deals with this specially. I am a bit of a mess to be honest. I got comfortable stating last year and even got excited discovering youtubers, but ended up just procrastinating, so I hope when i have my week planned and I'm used to following it, I won't worry about motivation anymore. And when I think of socialising as a skill set that I can learn instead of something of a natural given then it's something I can get good at and in turn my anxiety + depression will fade. Cos that's the really big one.
I think coping with stress isn't really a skill, but the less negativity you have in your head holding you back the better you're ability to cope.

So to sum up. Learn stuff I should have known years ago, then join clubs. 1 step at a time. Plus keep a journal of my journey. It may help someone someday

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